And back we go, into the trenches of modern warfare between men and women. Apparently, young men have a problem:
Men are lonelier than ever as they struggle to meet the higher dating standards of modern women, according to a psychologist. American psychologist Greg Matos wrote in a recent Psychology Today article that the current state of young and middle-aged men’s love lives shows they need to ‘address a skills deficit’.
He said: ‘I hear recurring dating themes from women between the ages of 25 and 45: They prefer men who are emotionally available, good communicators, and share similar values’. Yet, he claimed he’s found that modern men’s biggest problem is communication, which is ‘the lifeblood of healthy, long-term love’.
[S]ociety fails to teach young boys the importance of communication, which has resulted in growing numbers of unintentionally single men.
Well yes, but this is nothing new. Men have always had a problem communicating with women — although they seem to have no problem communicating with each other, which makes me wonder where the problem actually lies.
As this thesis comes from a psychologist, one could be forgiven for dismissing the whole thing out of hand, but it seems clear that the number of single, lonely young people of both sexes has grown over the past few decades.
There is one immediate finger to be pointed, and that is towards radical feminists, who have painted men (and especially young White men) as proto-aggressors, and nobody can deny that the feminization of the education process has left young men feeling increasing isolated.
Some have reacted admirably, turning the tables and asking women what, exactly, they are bringing to the party. Others (such as this young man) have come right out and published their own rules of engagement, so to speak. (In the latter case, he’s done an excellent job of “communicating” with women; but it’s probably not at all the kind they’re looking for.)
The article (written by a woman, BTW) quotes our psychologist that “Men are lonelier than ever as they struggle to meet the higher dating standards of modern women”… really? The way I read it, both sides are becoming more selective. While the poorly-communicating men might be sidelined by more picky women, it’s also clear that the (shall we say) poorer applicants among the women (sluts etc.) are most likely being left alone as well.
And lest we read too much into this, the situation is by no means a new one, nor has the technology changed it much.
