“Dear Dr. Kim:
“I was raised Catholic by my ultra-religious parents. Later on, I married a man who began to abuse me verbally and beat me. I stuck it out as long as I could, but eventually had enough and divorced him.
“I expected my parents to support me in my troubles, but instead they screamed at me for breaking my sacred marriage vows. They were so upset with me, despite the circumstances, that they disowned me from inheriting any of their estate.
“I want to sue them to overturn their decision, so that I can eventually inherit what is properly mine.
“Am I doing the right thing?”
Dear CM:
I am sorry that your life has been a pattern of abuse, both from your parents and from your husband. All three of them are total cunts, and to be honest, you are better off without them in your life.
If you ever talk to your parents again (which I don’t recommend), perhaps you should ask them if they’d have preferred to see you escape your marriage by murdering your husband instead — oh wait, that’s a mortal sin, nemmind.
While I sympathize greatly with your situation, I must nevertheless caution you against suing your parents to get your inheritance restored.
In the first place, only lawyers win in these situations, especially if you lose.
Secondly, this means you’d actually have to continue to be part of their horrible lives, even if only through lawyers.
And finally, let me remind you that as unpleasant as this may sound, your parents are in no way morally bound to leave you anything after they snuff it (hopefully soon, and painfully). It’s their property, and if they decide to leave it all to the Vatican instead (which wouldn’t surprise me in the slightest), that’s just the way of the world, especially for cunts like them.
Frankly, I’d send them a letter telling them that while you are hurt by their cunty decisions — for neglecting their parental duty to support you, and for the disinheritance — you intend never to see or speak to them again, and should they ever need any assistance in their old age, not to bother contacting you. Then don’t answer any letters or phone calls from them anymore.
I know, forgiveness is a Christian virtue and all that. But when a rabid dog bites you, it’s silly to pat it on the head afterwards.
I hope that in the near future you find a decent man to share your life with, and that you go on to have many children — who should never, ever be shared with their cunty grandparents, under any circumstances.
And if you can’t write them that letter, feel free to use this one in its stead.
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If your abusive ex-husband attempted to contact you, what would you do? If he calls, curse him and hang up, and block his calls. If he tries to contact you on-line, ghost him. If he tries to contact you through the mail, write a curse on the envelope and return it to him, postage due. If he tries to contact you in person, slam the door in his face and call the police and have him arrested as a stalker. Any way you can show him you’re done with him, do it.
Your parents deserve no better. Even if someday they come to their senses and apologies for their terrible actions, while you probably should accept the apology, there is nothing that says you should ever accept them back into your life.
Oh, Kim. No.
First, you can’t sue your parents for your inheritance. You have no legal right to it. In most (all?) states, it is entirely legal to disinherit one’s children, and that has been so for eons. However, every state has a spousal statutory share (generally up to 50%, depending on the length of the marriage), so one cannot disinherit one’s spouse.
However, that’s not the key. That door to one’s parents should remain open. As long as the parents are the a**holes the are right now, limit contact to a Christmas card, and occasional note. Don’t close all the doors. Time heals all wounds, and they may well come around eventually, especially if there are grandkids. I can’t tell you how many clients I’ve had who insisted they wanted nothing to do with a parent (and with my clients, the parent was often right) and my advice is always to keep a door open. Never say never.
It doesn’t matter in the long run who was in the wrong. Was the divorce wrong? I’ll let others argue about that. Was the cutting off/condemning by the parents wrong? Yes; Christ doesn’t teach us only to love those who love us back – he teaches to love and forgive “seven times seventy.” And we don’t forgive for the benefit of others, it benefits us. That doesn’t mean you have to subject yourself to abuse. It means you keep a door open, and be civil. You don’t to pat the rabid dog, but you don’t have to take it out and shoot it either.
It’s Britishland, and people Over There can and do sue for their inheritance, often winning.
And by the way, the only way to deal with a rabid dog IS to shoot it.
And that’s “Dr. Kim” to you…
Sounds like another case of “Never should have let the Catholics back in.”
Of course, Matthew 19 should still apply to CofE and Presbyterians anyway.
You chose the rabid dog analogy; it doesn’t really fit, for an obvious reason, and I probably should have modified it. The rabid dog can can’t change, and yes, you probably have to shoot it. The unreasonable a**hole parents, however, can and may well change and soften.
Interesting on the inheritance law difference in the UK. I generally don’t worry much about furriners funny laws. In most lawsuits, however, you’re right: the party that wins most is often the lawyers. Damn lawyers, anyway.
BTW – the WWII rifle shoot is on again Oct. 14. Any and all are welcome, of course. Ammo prices have gone up (thanks, mumblin’ senile Joe!) however.
Ah, the Unhinged Kingdom.
The trick is to claim the parents were “not of sound mind” when changing their will, hence the will isn’t legally valid and thus is inapplicable. Think the same can be done in the US as well.
Similar argument can be made by claiming the will was changed “under duress”, but that’s of course often harder to prove (basically you’d have to prove that the new recipient illegally pressured the parents to change it, usually works if the new recipient is someone they just met shortly before they died).
That’s generally not something you can do while the parents are still alive – not unless they _are_ obviously non compos mentos, and can’t even fake sanity for as long as Joe Biden has.
Not that I intend to victim-shame (ok, maybe I will a little), but weren’t there signs before the nuptials that the future ex-Mr. Devout Catholic was an abusive asshole?
Is it still possible to get an annulment from the Church?
Assuming you want to please your parents for some reason.
The RC Church does issue annulments. I don’ t know the details of the process but bear in mind that the RC Church has thousands of years of bureaucracy in place so I am sure it is a long, tedious process that gets abbreviated with the right “donation.”
JQ
If her father were manly he would have set his son in law straight