Unexpected Pleasure

If blogging seems a trifle light today, it’s because most of yesterday was spent in the company of Longtime Reader UncleKenny — during which we had a fine session at my local range, followed by coffee and a long chat.

I should point out that most of the chatting was done by me, because as I seldom nowadays have any social contact with friends, I tend to jabber on endlessly when I do.  He didn’t fall asleep during said chat, and on occasion even prompted me to continue, which says much about his scholarliness and gentlemanliness.

I have without doubt the best damn Readers on the Internet.  Thanks, Ken, and it was a rare and special privilege to meet you in person.


Afterthought:  I should point out that nobody’s perfect:  he did bring a Glock to the range after all, but at least it was chambered for the manly .45 ACP and not the other rubbish.  And anyway, such lapses in taste can always be forgiven among friends.

Un-Cluttering

The last time I spent in the company of The Divine Sarah (and her hubby, shuddup you dirty-minded sods) was when she lived in her Colorado house.  It was a lovely place, and I have to confess I did feel the occasional pang of envy.

Her new place?  Apparently, not so lovely.

Of course, what hurt Sarah was that she moved the entirety of her old house’s contents into (I assume) a house of similar dimensions, and she and Dan brought everything with them.  That, I could have told her, was always going to be a mistake, because a rule of thumb when moving is that you always repeat always de-clutter before the move.

When New Wife and I moved a couple years back, it helped that we were losing a bedroom (and its closets and its bathroom), so we had to get rid of an unconscionable number of things that we decided we were never going to need again.  (Sarah talks of a couple SUVs of stuff headed to Goodwill:  that’s beginner activity where I come from.)

What’s interesting is that of course I had to de-clutter bigly, back after Connie died and I had to empty our enormous Plano house (seven 30′ dumpsters… how’s that for clutter?) so I could remodel and sell the place.

And New Wife and I moved into an apartment, she bringing only a couple of suitcases-worth of her stuff from Seffrica, and I bringing only the remnants of the stuff I’d kept from the old house (less than a quarter of a single-car garage’s worth).  And we still managed to accumulate possessions during our time in that apartment so that when we last moved, there were many trips made to Goodwill etc.

I might as well have been in the Army for all the moves I’ve made in my lifetime — the biggest one being from Seffrica to the Land Of The Free in The Great Wetback Episode of ’86 (three suitcases, from a huge townhouse in Johannesburg), and the next biggest was the aforementioned one from the Plano house.

Obviously, in terms of stuff let go, the Seffrican move caused the most:  stereo set, a thousand or so albums, furniture, 400 bottles of wine — what the hell was I thinking? — clothing, a garage-full of tools and two cars.  (Now that I think of it, even the relinquished clothing was ridiculous:  a dozen suits, a dozen pairs of shoes, two dozen dress shirts… oy, it hurts my brain just to think about it.  And by the way, all the clothing still fitted me, so it wasn’t even that any were particularly old or threadbare.)

Recently though, I’ve learned to be absolutely ruthless in paring back stuff.  It helps that we have an apartment that cannot contain anything more than what we have, so whenever we see something we’d like to buy for the house, the first question is always what we’ll have to toss out — new stuff is replacement, not additional.  This includes clothing, even.

Anyway, let me just give y’all an example of what I’m talking about.  This is our breakfast nook/dining room:

And no, it wasn’t posed or set up, but completely impromptu:  I was lying on the living-room couch and thought it would make an interesting still-life pic.  (That’s why the side pieces of art aren’t hanging symmetrically, sue me.  They are now, though.)

In Comments, feel free to share the details of your most wrenching move.  Or just tell me what caused you the most anguish to let go…

The Layabout Sailor

Longtime Readers may recall that a bunch of my friends and I used to get together once a year for the Feinstein-Daley Memorial Shoot at the east Texas ranch of Reader Airboss (sadly, since deceased).  It was always a festive affair and featured the occasional gun.

It was at one such event where I met Doc Russia, at the time still a med student at UT-Houston, who had a blog entitled Bloodletting (which I miss dreadfully, even though I still see him regularly for shooting and dinners etc.).  Another blogger also came along at that same meeting:  Jim Siegler from Smoke On The Water, which featured guns, politics and details of his life on board his beloved yacht, the sloop New Dawn.

While Doc was an excellent shot, Jim was likewise;  actually, Jim was easily the best all-round shooter — pistol, revolver, rifle and shotgun — I’ve ever met.


(that’s a youthful Son&Heir spotting for him, btw)

We played all sorts of shooty games, potting bowling pins and plinking at golf balls.

If not doing that, we “tested” each others’ guns (uh huh) and shot impromptu IDPA- or rimfire rifle competitions.  In the former, the competition was usually between Jim and Doc;  with the .22, I was occasionally able to keep up, but mostly, it was always Jim.  Not even the S&H — a competition handgun shooter — could match him, especially when Jim unholstered that ancient and worn S&W Model 14 (K-38 Masterpiece), his favorite gun.

It’s probably true to say that some of the best shooting fun I’ve ever had was with this man, because over the past two or so decades whenever he came up to Dallas or I went down to Galveston, we sent many thousands of rounds downrange together.  To call us “shooting buddies” would be a total understatement.

Then he met a lovely woman, and his life was complete.  (I nicknamed her “Irish” because of her thick, occasionally impenetrable Belfast accent.)

Then Hurricane Ike hit Galveston in 2009.  It destroyed the New Dawn, which ended up in pieces closer to Houston than to Galveston.  Jim’s normal procedure when faced with storms was simply to batten down and ride it out;  but this time, for some reason, he and Irish left Galveston and stayed with friends up in Livingston.  Had he stayed on the yacht, as he usually did, he would have perished.

Afterwards, Jim and Irish bought a small house, still on Galveston Island — which itself was almost destroyed by Hurricane Harvey in 2017.  When the floodwaters receded, they discovered that the insurance would only cover repairs up to the sub-floor;  so Jim rebuilt the rest of the place himself, carefully and meticulously:  floors, kitchen and bathrooms.

In fact, “meticulous” was a word that could describe Jim best:  his house looked as though it had been put together by a master builder, his guns were all in perfect working order, his reloaded ammo was faultless and wonderfully consistent, and his various trucks looked brand new even though they were decidedly not, and all ran like a sewing machine.

I need to make a comment at this point.  Frequent Readers of this website may remember that I have always referred to Jim as “the Layabout Sailor”.  That was a total lie, because Jim was one of the hardest-working men I’ve ever come across, and the ironic nickname was the complete antithesis of him.  Having come from extreme poverty — his first job was washing dishes at a restaurant, at age eight — Jim worked his whole life at a number of jobs, sometimes two at a time:  insurance adjuster, car salesman, bus driver, roofer, whatever paid the bills.  He used to joke that his best-paying job was when he enlisted in the Air Force in his late teens, so you get the idea.  College was never an option because there was little money and he refused to get into debt.  But he was always well-groomed and impeccably dressed — and by the way, very intelligent, well-read and well-spoken, his soft Texas drawl a welcome sound always, along with his impish sense of humor.   (His online signature: “Jim S.– Sloop New Dawn” became “Jim S. — Sunk New Dawn”, which masked his despair at the tragedy of its loss.)

Last November Jim wrote to me to tell me that he was suffering from amyotrophic lateral sclerosis — Lou Gehrig’s Disease — and of course as we all know, ALS is incurable.  His prognosis was grim — perhaps two years — but the cruelest part was that while ALS can affect both the brain and the muscular system, Jim’s brain was completely unaffected.  So his body was starting to collapse, leaving his lively, intelligent brain intact.  He became weak and his speech began to slur.

Doc Russia and I visited him in April this year following a warning from an alarmed Combat Controller;  and while Jim was in bad shape, he was still able to get around with a walker — we went to his local bar in the evening, and to his favorite breakfast place the next morning — but his speech was barely intelligible, and Irish had to translate much of it for us.  He was much thinner, of course, because he wasn’t able to eat much.  But we left him doing okay, albeit a shadow of his former self, and were comforted by the fact that we’d be able to see him again over the next year or so, at least.  We were wrong.

My friend Jim died two weeks ago, in late June 2025, after only nine months since his diagnosis.  Rather than a slow decline, his condition simply went over a cliff, and he died of pulmonary failure, as his lungs — even with a respirator — ceased to function.

And the world became a little worse for his passing.

Of course, Irish’s world became a lot worse, because Jim had been her whole life, and her his.  New Wife and I spent this last July 4th long weekend with her down in Galveston, and to see one of the nicest people I know in such a state of unutterable grief has taken my normal good humor completely away.  To put it bluntly, I’m in a state of deep melancholy, and it’s going to take a little while before I feel better.  Expect blogging to be light for the rest of this week — most of what will appear is post-dated — while I try to come to terms with all this.  Details will follow when I’m able to tell them.

So long Jim, you rotten layabout.

Another Good Example

…this time from the Hungarians on raising birth rates.  A couple of eyebrow-raisers:

Mothers can stay at home for three years after giving birth, with the first six months paid at a rate higher than their previous salary – they receive their full gross salary, not just the net amount.

Mothers under 30 are exempt from personal income tax, and mothers with two or more children pay no personal income tax for the rest of their lives.

Married couples expecting or having a child can apply for an interest-free loan up to €30.000 – and if they have three children, the loan is fully forgiven.

The government offers low-interest fixed-rate housing loans for families. In the case of three or more children, families can access up to €127,000.

The government also provides non-refundable financial grants up to €37.500 for families who move to rural areas.

Gotta say that as much as I’m approving of all this assistance, I’m not sure who pays for it all.  Then again, if you offset those costs against what a government might spend on illegal immigrants, then maybe the system will work.

The results so far, though, seem to be pretty good:

In 2010, Hungary ranked last among EU member states in terms of total fertility rate, but according to the latest Eurostat data from 2023, we have risen to third place. This significant progress is largely thanks to the targeted government family support policies implemented over the past fifteen years. As a result, since 2010, 200,000 more children have been born than would have been expected based on previous demographic trends. In parallel with the rise in births, the number of marriages has significantly increased, the number of divorces has decreased. Even the number of abortions has fallen significantly  –  all without the introduction of new restrictive legislation.

Wow.  And the principles behind this initiative are sound, too:

First, increase family incomes so that people have the financial base to start and raise families.

Second, support housing, because having a home is fundamental to starting a family.

Third, ensure long-term financial security for women. A lot of women would like to have families but they are afraid that motherhood would mean an existential risk. We built a safety net to increase the income (and the living standard with it) for women.

If you want people to do something, then subsidize it — especially if that “thing” is ruinously expensive through no fault of theirs.

I’d like to see the results of this in, say, twenty years’ time when this “baby boom” starts getting into the workplace.

But in the meantime, I’m impressed.