From the inimitable Sarah Hoyt:
“Humans don’t do well with no limits and nothing to strive against, and in a society where abundance does not supply the sharp sting of lack or the fear of death, we need to have other things to test ourselves against.”
….. and this is why the “no limits” and “being my child’s friend” model of parenthood results in such nasty self absorbed sociopaths. They will go find limits somewhere, and they will not be the limits you like.
https://www.anonymousconservative.com/blog/the-theory-2/